"What if something happened to you that is so heart rending, so long lasting, and so traumatic that you find yourself giving it to God over and over but cannot move forward or find peace?" This is the question I recently asked on Facebook. The responses were so helpful and so good that I wanted to share them in one blog so they could be helpful to those who are hurting.
Susan Reed replied: "Surrender is a difficult journey. It is a willful intentional choice. We don't usually think of Jesus experiencing trauma on the cross because He knew that love was what held him at the cross. Love never fails so love is where we have to be to be able to move forward. First and for most you have to believe God is good. All good things come from the Father of lights, but we all still have free will. Separate the light from the dark in your most horrific experiences and look for the good as God does. It may be as simple as I survived so I know my God has a plan for me. Use those experiences to find a way to encourage others. Use that trauma as a catalyst to move you forward. If we camp out in the past there is nothing gained. However, if we realize use the past as a teacher we can lay it down and move forward. There should be no judgement about yourself or others because that battle is Gods. He simply wants you to love Him and love your brother as yourself. Nothing more. Just love and live to the fullest. Just as the enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy, you have the ability to kill negativity. God will see you through till you rise victorious!"
Lisa Allums replied, "When I was young I learned to put them in boxes under the kitchen sink of my mind until I was able to pull one out and deal with it sort it or trash it...comes from having had to many hurts. But I learned it from a therapist book I once read. It works. Sometimes I can deal quickly but deep things get put under the sink kind of like a can of old cooking grease until I have time and energy to clean it out. Detachment probably but it worked. I now take it to God and pray until I know how to sort it. I keep casting it to God's kitchen sink till He says let's deal with this.
Cindy Hyde's reply: Trauma is real. In and of itself trauma is like a tear in our soul. The pain can be given to Jesus, the One Who bore our pain, through forgiving the one who hurt you. Healing for the traumatized part of our lives is a process. The enemy keeps coming at us in the same area to torment us and to try to cause us to have repetitive memories like a recording playing over and over. Forgiveness is a choice we make in obedience to God's Word. We make the choice and with some things or some people we must keep making the choice every time we relive what they did or what happened. Sometimes we get stuck in the trauma and need to be set free. Finding peace for your soul can be done through making the choice to forgive God, yourself, and others. As hard as it may seem to be, nothing is impossible with God, He will help you once you have made the decision to obey Him and forgive. He will begin a work in your heart, mind, soul, and spirit that will cause you to become whole.
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